Hi All –
As is usual for all of us, finding a balance between self, family, and my pursuits has been a struggle. The realization I’ve made is that the balance between choices that provide depth and meaning to my life and necessary daily tasks is more like a seesaw than a balanced scale. Depending on the hour or week or month, I tend to pay more attention to one aspect of my life than the other…and it’s ok.
I believe that intuitively (when our lives are focused on our self actualization), we will place our attention where it needs to be — self, family, work. It doesn’t need to be an equal balance; we make choices on what is important and those weighted factors tip the seesaw one way or the other…and sways from one area to the other in constant realignment.
What should drive everything we do is our focus on what brings us the most satisfaction, joy, and peace regardless of where we tend to be focusing our attention on at the moment. If we are not feeling satisfied, joyful or peaceful, then it doesn’t matter what we are focusing and spending time on.
So as we pursue our business interests there may be times when we are distracted or believe we are not in balance with ourselves or our friends and family, but this is not an excuse not to push forward as soon as you can. My mantra remains: “Take Action Every Day!”
The other thing to keep in mind is that we will not do everything we want to do. Period. We simply need to focus on those things which ultimately brings us satisfaction, joy, and peace in our work and private lives. Because at the end of the day, it’s all part of the same thing.
With Love and Respect,
I’ve been on a family vacation in Slovenia, Italy, and Croatia and the time away has allowed me a small bit of time to think about how I and others live our lives. I believe the truth is that the majority of us give our lives away and base our decisions on a herd mentality and unwritten rules. So what the heck am I talking about?
Consider this, do you have a 401K account or a mutual fund? Have you placed your financial future in the hands of people you’ve never met and do not know and turn them to manage your financial future? Are you relying on Social Security or someone else to carry you into a secure retirement?
It seems like most of us are not comfortable taking control of our lives. If things do not work out, we can simply place the blame somewhere else…our boss, a spouse, the Government. Most of us have given up control of our financial futures and simply placed our trust in the system with the hope that everything will work out.
I believe the same can be said of our working lives. We rely on others to provide us employment in the hope that we will be treated fairly; or that we are not caught up in a down economy; or downsized for the sake of increased profits. This is why I’ve decided to place trust in myself and people with a similar mindset. It’s time to put ourselves first and truly know that we can succeed on our own! There is so much content available through books, podcasts, blogs, and good people who are willing to share their knowledge and experience.
If you are ready to put yourself first, then take that first step and write down as many thoughts and ideas as you can on what you would like to do — then take action to accomplish something greater than you ever thought possible! Whether you ultimately succeed or not is secondary to how you will feel about yourself when you take control and accept responsibility for every aspect of your life. Your life will be better in so many amazing and intangible ways. Whenever we realize that we might have what it takes to achieve our goals, something inside us is ignited. We truly begin to live our lives instead of acting out imprinted scenarios — whether social or cultural. That spark is your life coming out of the shadows and breathing in the the unlimited possibilities and promise that the future holds.
Let’s get started right now!
With Love and Respect,